Challenging your buying habits and streamlining your wardrobe!

Fashion, wardrobe

Hi team!

This is a blog about your wardrobe and how to buy smarter!

A woman’s wardrobe can cause stress, grief, joy, and bubbling excitement. You get up for the day, you look into your wardrobe, and there are a million different options on who you want to be today. A top and a cool jean means you are fashionably aware yet nonchalant to be like: “Oh this old thang?” while secretly high fiving yourself on choosing said outfit that morning.

Now here comes the tricky part. There are parts of your wardrobe deemed NO ACCESS areas. This means there are clothes there that you want to get into one day, part their prime but can’t bring yourself to get rid of, and the biggest fashion crime, unworn with tags. This happens a lot in wardrobes I have seen over the years and it is a big crime, but a source of shame for people.

These corners of your wardrobe need to be addressed so they can let the rest of your wardrobe shine.

People often buy and take home items, try them on, then realise that they don’t look good outside the shop for whatever reason, then are too embarrassed to take them back so leave them in their wardrobe. This is a big no no in my books. Send it back, get your money, then buy something you will wear!

Other things in the wardrobe are sentimental items. Now I know this pain as I have a pair of MC Hammer sequin pants that I have not worn in years, but I have kept as I have had a good time wearing them and they have good memories. However, this is a trap. Do you have pictures of you in your beloved item? Good, theres the memories. Throw the sequins away (can’t believe I just typed that who am I?).

Stop waiting to try get into clothes. A woman’s shape is ever changing and mysterious, so just go with the flow and your body and buy clothes that fit well NOW. If you are working on yourself fitness wise (see my Fitness Athleisure wear blog HERE) then good on you, keep that heart ticking and get healthy. Live life now and get clothes that make you look good on the journey.

Another one I see a lot of is tops that have holes, faded, run down, tired. I had a lot of those in my wardrobe and it is amazing how many things past their date I kept or continued to wear into my twenties when they should have stopped in my teens. Even my nightwear was sad. So I updated in good quality jimmy jams and got rid of my holey tshirts and frayed jeans. Get rid of it. Donate any wearable good stuff but get rid of the rest.

Donating is a great way to keep the life of a clothing piece going. When you think about the work that goes into making a piece of clothing, you want to make sure that it gets the most out it as possible. Plus you could make a grown woman scream in the middle of a charity shop because she has been looking for your top for AGES (may or may not be based on the life of the blogger here).

Buy sensibly in the first place. Invest in clothing, don’t just buy a £3 top. Look at the material, the price, where it was made, who is selling it. These factors match up with our own personal values and ensure that we are buying smarter and not just on a whim, which leads to many clothes being wasted.

There are many clothes swaps nights happening around the world, get along to one of those and take your good quality items to swap with other like minded people. This is a great example of the ‘one in, one out’ theory where if you buy something, you get rid of something.Or have one of your own with mates!

So these are a few ways to really challenge yourself and your buying habits, which building a wardrobe that ultimately makes YOU feel good!

T xx

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Brand Profile: Lisa Junius

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Hi Team!

So this week I am talking about one of my favourite artist, Lisa Junius!

Lisa is a 25 year old artist from Luxembourg who creates fantastical art pieces. I found her on Instagram and was attached to her work immediately. It has such a simplicity and a beauty to it that really resonates with me. While Lisa studied in art, she drew and painted, and found her voice. She also likes to experiment with different textures, hence you will find everything from ceramic to enamel, to sweatshirts in her online shop. She is limitless in her creativity, and I am always wanting to know what it next in her art journey.

She tells me ‘I try to not focus too much on finished work, if it’s ‘good’ or ‘bad’ or a ‘favorite’. When I finish a piece, I begin another thing immediately – often even before I finished. It’s part of my process to create, without thinking too much about the result. Because I think often that is what’s blocking an artist, it’s pressure.’ I definitely agree. There is nothing worse that try to take a photo or write under pressure. Anything that blocks your creativity also blocks your voice.

There are some exciting things coming up for Lisa, who is starting work on a picture
book and also outdoor sculptures. Plus at the end of August she is releasing a Tarot Deck
filled with her illustrations, which I am definitely going to get my hands on!
She really captures something for me, and I hope she does for you too. Here are a few of
my favourites from her – some you can purchase in her Etsy Shop which I will link below.

 

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T xx
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Letting Go Of Friends.

Life

Hi guys!

So this blog deals with a topic that can be quite painful for a lot of people, and in fact has happened to everyone. It is about the ways we lose, let go, or fall out with friends.

The first time you may lose a friend is if your friend moves away. I moved away from my best friend to the UK and it’s been hard. However it’s only strengthened our friendship but I know for a lot of people it can break friendships. There are friends I am no longer as close to simply by being in a different country. It can be very hard to accept, however when I visit it means I can visit the ride or dies.

The other way you can lose a friend is simply growing up. This can often start from puberty onwards as you discover boys/girls and where you are in the world. Its something that does naturally happen, and will continue to happen as you move through high school and get to know yourself and who you want as a friend through a tough time of growing up.

The other time is when people get married and have children. You might not lose them as a friend, but if you aren’t having kids around the same time or indeed ever – because  their lives are now filled with their kids it can be hard for them to see you and vice versa.

The other more in your face way is if you have an actual fight and never make up. This is very painful, as you feel like you are throwing years of friendship down the drain. It can be very hard to come to terms with – people have likened it to a break up. This one can do a bit a of damage and also make you lose mutual friends in the bargain.

Losing friends can be painful, sad, needed, and fine – and all at the same time sometimes. Sometimes you have a toxic friend who doesn’t care about you, just themselves, and this is when you need to let them go. As I’ve gotten older I’ve realised it’s not about the quantity of friends, its the quality. I now have some very close knit friends who we’ve been through weddings, divorces, children, and death. These friends have supported me through my depression, and I have supported them. I have lost a lot of friends to help this happen, but its the greatest payoff as I know who my friends will be until the end of time.

I hope that if you lose a friend, you will gain one more that will enrich your life better than the last!

T xx

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How To Make Friends

Life

Hi guys!

So this weeks topic is all about making friends. Making friends is tough at any age. You may live in a big city full of people and feel a little lonely. It can be hard to break into groups who are fully established and have their own routine.

However there are many avenues you can try.

  1. If you have a partner, see what their friends are like. Who are your mutual friends? Who are friends of friends that sometimes come to events and you don’t see much? If you think you might get along with someone, talk to them at your next meeting, and then arrange to go out for coffee!
  2. Join a club doing something you enjoy. The gym, knitting group, walks around your town or city, or even volunteer at a charity shop! If you enjoy doing something, you will find people who will enjoy it too, and there is your first thing in common.
  3. Get to know people online. I have some Twitter friends that I have now become friends with in real life, which is amazing! You can chat over social media and then meet up for a drink or a coffee and see how you mesh – and the best part is it really is just continuing the conversation!
  4. Join Facebook Groups! I have joined a few for work and for personal and it really feels like a little group all bonded over one or several topics – plus if they are in your town or city thats even better!
  5. Work friends – now this one is a little trickier as you might have to also make sure work doesn’t interfere with your budding friendship but you may spend 40 hours with the people you work with – why not go out for an afterwork drink with some of them? This will help you at work also, and means that your work life can be a fun place to be for the days that you are there. Plus you might be friends with them outside of work which can be really fufiling.

Are there any tips I am missing? Let me know in the comments!

T xx

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My Evening Routine!

Life

Hi guys!

So I wrote about my Morning Routine and now I am focusing on my Evening routine! This can vary but if I’m working in the office or if I have work the next day I do try to keep to it to make sure I’m ready for the day ahead.

  1. Exercise. I count meditation as an exercise as it is just as important but I will do a mixture of things such as Meditation, Core work, Running, and Yoga – depending on what I am in the mood for. Its good to run off everything that happened over the day, especially if it was a stressful one, and to stretch myself from being hunched over a desk.
  2. I usually blog for twenty minutes, as its a nice creative time of the evening and means that I can keep on top of my blog posts by plugging away at it each week. And I haven’t run out of ideas yet!
  3. I tidy a different room each day of the week, so I can keep up with my housework through the week and then can enjoy the weekend. I give each room about twenty minutes so I don’t spend forever and then any big things can wait for the weekend.
  4. I usually get into bed for ten and spend that hour reading. I have a lot of magazines and books that I read so I try to stay off my phone for that hour and get into a good book.
  5. Lastly I put hand and cuticle cream on, and I have aromatherapy oil that are in little roller bottles that I put on my pillow to lull me into sleep.

This routine really works for me, as I tend to have trouble sleeping when I have anxiety so doing exercise, reading, and having the routine really helps me relax and get a good nights sleep and be ready for that 7:15 alarm! (Ugh).

Do you have an evening routine? Let me know in the comments!

T xx

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My Morning Routine.

Life

Hi guys!

So today I am talking about my morning routine. As someone who has anxiety establishing a morning routine has been instrumental to my recovery and also sets me up for the day properly. I am also improving it all the time to further suit me and what I need that day. There are also some steps that I do need to cut out but its a process OKAY.

  1. Alarm goes off at 7:15am. I then hop on my phone to check social media – now I know that that is the worst thing you can do first thing – however since I am from New Zealand my friends and family have been posting while I am asleep so Facebook gives me the best of that morning so I am caught up with the family gossip. I then get up for half 7 when the radio comes on.
  2. I have my breakfast, watching clips on Youtube. I like to be by myself in the morning, as I get used to being awake, thinking about what I have to do for the day, and having a moment to myself before the loudness of the day starts.
  3. I have a shower and get ready. Since I don’t have to wear makeup for work, lately this has been a quick thing but it depends on the day. I love not wearing makeup and have seen such a difference in my skin.
  4. I would have set up my bag and everything so I can just grab and go. I don’t deal well with finding keys, forgetting things, etc. So I get my bag and everything ready to go so I can jump out the door (especially as I am running late).
  5. I walk to work. I love walking to work and it was something that was fundamental to me when I was looking for a job when I moved back to Edinburgh. I don’t mind the bus but I love to go out and stretch my legs before sitting at a desk all day.

Because I am self employed, when I am not in the office, my day changes a little – I may sleep in a little longer, play some of my games and do my French practise, before I get up and get ready for the day. A slow start to the morning definitely agrees with me, and I tend to work later in the afternoon/evening so I know that taking this time now sets me up for the day.

What’s your morning routine like? Let me know in the comments!

T xx

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Why Everyone Should Have Therapy.

Life, Mental Health

Hi guys!

This week I am talking about my experience going to a therapist! I have talked to people over the years about therapy, and seen different experiences and results. The main issues are cost and finding a therapist that really gets you. This can be very difficult if you are under real stress and really need someone experienced to help you.

I found my therapist by doing a lot of research. A good method is to pick a few and go to them for a session. Some places also do taster sessions so you can get to know someone and decide they are right for you.

I liked mine as she made therapy very relaxed and interesting. She brought up studies that would apply to me – almost giving me homework and the initiative to research for myself. I had a cup of tea if I wanted, and a nice quiet relaxed room.

It can be very nerve-wracking opening up for the first time. My therapist was really good in letting me talk when I needed to talk, and asking me probing questions to get me past my stock answers to the nitty gritty. It was funny every time I showed up and she asked how I was I said ‘fine’ which I obviously wasn’t but it’s something we are programmed in to say. However after a few well placed questions we were easily down to the real issues.

I saw my therapist after each burnout, and each time we got more and more into why I burnt out and got deeper into issues and preventing it from happening again. I only maybe had three or four sessions, but these gave me the tools I needed to work on myself and make some major life choices (including quitting retail and following my dreams).

I recommend therapy to everyone. It really does help. Myself and my husband are passionate about mental health, especially in men, and when I heard that one of my friends when to therapy and he found it really interesting, I was so happy to hear. It can be hard for anyone to talk to a stranger about deeply personal issues, but it really helps release a lot and gets you out of your head.

You may think it’s going to be a cliche, or that you dont need it, but I definitely think it is for everyone, with varying degrees. You might only need a session here or there to keep yourself right, or you may need a few intensive sessions to get yourself back on track or to tackle some deeper issues so you can work through them. Either way, I hope you do get to experience it once in your life and see how it works for you. It has helped so many people as qualified therapists tackle their issues and make them see a better way of life!

Have you ever been to a therapist?

T xx

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What’s in my NEW bag!

Life

Hi team!

So this week I am showing you through the products and must haves I take in my bag everyday (and the brand of kitchen sink I keep in there also).

I bought this fabulous bag off Ebay, and I just love it. It’s small enough so I can’t over carry heavy stuff, and it has a panel where I have put all of my favourite pins, plus it has a glitter see through front! So cute!

Heres what I have inside.

  1. KEYS. I can’t be one of those people that have their keys on a hook by the door, or in a bowl – none of that. I will forget them. Plus my door is one of those that just locks when I leave, so if I forget my keys, I definitely can’t go back in to get them!
  2. Reusable bag. I am firmly on board with this reusable bag, as I have a dozen of these  canvas bags around, so why not put them to use! I am proud to say that my plastic bag usage is now only for my rubbish bags.
  3. Wallet. I bought a great snap wallet from Primark, and I haven’t looked back. It has ALL my loyalty cards, coupons, and a picture of Neil Armstrong landing on the moon. It’s what I need.
  4. Headphones. I NEED Headphones. I can’t picture life without them – as a INFJ I do need to have that time to shut out the world and decompress after a long day.
  5. Sunglasses. Always a need, for the same reasons as headphones. When I was severely depressed these two things would become my armour.
  6. Deodorant. I use a roll on from Sure and at the moment I have the Soap and Glory Original Pink Perfume.
  7. Coin Purse, or as I call it, the Tip Purse. I have a lovely seashell tiny purse that I put all my coins in – mostly stolen from my husband, to tip staff when we are out for dinner! Or if we need a last-minute bus fare. SO handy.
  8. Makeup Bag – this really should include a category of its own, but this is a super low-key bag. I have my lip stuff, hayfever pills, citalopram pills, shell shaped mirror (of course) and mints. I don’t carry around makeup to top up during the day as most the time I can go to work without makeup or I am working from home so it’s easy breezy.
  9. Hairbrush that on the back says ‘Mermaid Hair, Don’t Care’ – can you tell I’m into mermaids?
  10. Hand Cream – Hand Food from Soap and Glory – SUCH a nice smell.
  11. Pusheen Multicolour Pen – this never fails to make me smile when I take it out to write serious business stuff.
  12. Backup Charger – now that my Iphone is being used since my Ipod went for walkabouts and I play The Sims all the time, I usually need to charge it extra in the afternoon. It definitely has saved my life a few times!
  13. Business Cards – because I am a self-employed Social Media Consultant, every day I’m hustling.
  14. Hand Sanitiser – because you just need it.

While this may be a lot to some people (and not much to some) this is the perfect amount of things to get me through my day. It’s funny how personal your bag is – have you ever seen the inside of your friends bags? I remember having a nosy through my mums bag and being fascinated about what grownups carry around – makeup, etc. If you have your own Inside Your Handbag blog – please send it to me!

T xx

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My Favourite Podcasts

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Hi team!

This week I am talking about my favourite podcasts!

I was definitely very slow getting into podcasts, but I’ve since found them a great way to speed up the walk to work, or while doing housework! I have listened to many, and wanted to share a few of my favourites.

  1. WTF with Marc Maron

I really got into Marc Maron when I watched GLOW, then watched his standup, and then went over to his podcast and started from the start. Marc has a voice and a way of speaking that is very engaging, and provides a point of difference. He also asks some very different questions as well. The podcast is hosted in his garage, and famously Barack Obama came to record in that garage for his podcast. I would also recommend the Drew Carey Episode – it’s quite interesting to hear more about his life and background.

2. RuPaul: Whats the Tee with Michelle Visage

So when I am in my obsessed mode with Drag Race (which is all the time, let’s get real), I also listened to Ru Paul and Michelle Visage’s podcast. They interview celebrities that are featured on the show, and also drag queens that have been contestants in previous and current seasons. They also do episodes that they just use to talk about particular subjects and give more insight into their lives. It feels like you are gossiping with two friends, and is a really good listen, especially if you are a fan of Drag Race.

3. Regular Girls

This podcast I got into, as I am obsessed with Renee Young from WWE. She presents it along with her friend Stacy who works for Second City and is super funny! They talk about everything and anything – they did have a topic an episode but now its more like a chat session, which I like! They are both Canadian – Renee lives in Las Vegas and Stacy lives in Toronto so they reminise about Canada a lot and talk about life in Las Vegas, which I am fascinated with. Much recommended!

4. Betch Slapped

This podcast is great. It was born in 2011 from 3 women who grew up in New York together and started an empire. They talk about all manner of things, and have recently started talking about serious issues such as politics and women’s rights. They also have a dating podcast, and a podcast about the Bachelor (which by the way, I feel like nearly every American is super into). They answer romance and career questions from their readers and also play games like Would You Rather. They have guests on also! It’s a really good podcast for young women.

That’s my round-up! I will probably do another one when I have listened to more podcasts!

Recommend me some in the comments please!

T xx

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Busy For The Sake Of Being Busy

Mental Health

Hi team!

So this week I am talking about something that is definitely prevalent in our everyday lives – busyness.

I do like to be busy. Its sometimes hard for me to switch off, with the endorphins of a to do list beckoning. However I discovered not long ago that really, my to do list was helping me achieve nothing. I was working on stuff week to week, but actually not achieving anything. I had set major goals in my life revamp (documented in my older blogs) but instead of what I thought was working towards it steadily each week, some weeks that job would fall off the radar as my to do list was overwhelming me. Then it would just sit in the red, as the days and weeks would go past, taunting me with something I hadn’t achieved.

I do like a to do list. I get a little bit of an endorphin rush when I complete a task (especially as I use an app that sends unicorns over the screen when I have completed a task. I also have a very complex one set up for one of my clients. However my therapist told me that actually, my days were starting to get regimented, and I was actually working hard, but not smart. I was putting immense pressure on myself to perform tasks that didn’t NEED to be done that day, and when they went into the red, my anxiety would start coming in and I would over compensate to get stuff done. Meanwhile the most important jobs would get shoved off the radar and these were the ones that would actually make more of an impact on my life, not that the kitchen needed it’s weekly deep clean.

I have noticed that everyone is busy. Everyone has to go to work, pack a lunch, keep fit, look after their 2.5 children, see their parents, go to family events, keep their house clean, the list goes on. However not much time is left for mindfulness or downtime, and what downtime there is might involve alcohol (nothing wrong with that obviously). The pressure to have it all is very hard, and something that has been debated and ripped apart over the years, but for a lot of people, if they aren’t doing something or achieved something that day, they consider it a failure.

When I signed off work with burnout, I was told to priortise 3 things a day. Nothing else. I was so burnt out that even getting three things done was hard – and this could be having a shower, making your lunch, etc.

When I revamped my life after I got better, I got more organised (I do love to be organised) and started a master to do list that sets things up for even a year in advance. However with my anxiety, I swung it to the extreme, and took it far too seriously. If I were smarter earlier on, I would have set up tasks like meditation, exercise, seeing friends, etc.

Once I got back out the other side, I did just that. I (sadly) now have programmed my friends into it so I see them at least once a month (hopefully more). I also have programmed to do Yoga and Meditation every day as this is a really great mindful part of the day I look forward to. I also have programmed exercise, daily tasks, and redid my deadlines so tasks are more realistic to what I am doing that day.

I know there are people out there that thrive from busyness. However it is really important to make the most important task of the day you and your self care. Have something on your list that makes you happy that day, such as a run, or a magazine read, or watching a crappy tv show (I do love Project Runway). Cut your to do list ruthlessly. Do you need to go and see your aunts cousins daughter? No. Do you need to clean the kitchen today? Can it wait until tomorrow? Yes. While being busy is thought of as being productive, it is very easily to get caught up in it and then find out that actually, nothing is getting done and you are stressed and exhausted.

Tell me three things you can cut off your to do list – STAT.

T xx

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