Getting yo mind right

Hi team.

So I did promise a mental health blog and here.it.is (said in announcer voice).

In order for you to feel confident in any fashion you choose, you need to be confident in yourself to begin with. For years and years I used outlandish fashion to cover the fact that I was depressed and had major social anxiety. Clothing gave me that outlet to express what I  wanted to be all the way through. Now having been treated and come out the other side (although taking it day by day) I can now wear whatever I want and it not be an expression of something else.

I also used shopping as an outlet to get a high and to feel like I have transformed myself. The sad truth is that this only lasts for a hot minute and you are back to before. Therefore I have a lot of clothing now and a lot of it was from that time. The only way to know your style is once you have a clear head and don’t impulse buy. Here are some tips to get your mojo back (fashion mojo y’all)

  1. Talk to someone – anonymous. Talking to friends is good but with a stranger you can open up in a way that you never thought. They will be able to tell you what your triggers are and offer support and solutions. I went to see someone in Birmingham and got the tools to get cognitive therapy which I still use today (as I was very anti pill at the time)
  2. Pamper yourself. In other words… (Treat YOSELF). I for for massages, pedicures, hair appointments, etc. Take care of your body and it will help you.
  3. Exercise. They say 20 minutes a day is sufficient but I can only run for ten minutes and feel like I’m dying. Pick a sport and do it. Join a team. I run, do pilates, and Zumba, and avoid competitive sports as I get anxiety and competitive. You need to pick whats right for you and do it as much as possible.
  4. Take up a hobby. I read tarot and do black and white photography. I also have learned British Sign Language and Maori. I am endlessly full of hobbies and not enough time, but I try to get all of them done regularly. Do something just for you and you will feel a sense of achievement.
  5. Meditate. I have just started it but it is super good to clean your mind after a rushed and busy day. It means you get a clear focus on what is important and what is not. I am a huge fan as I overthink like hell.

The last one, is declutter your wardrobe. It really declutters your mind. If you want help, I am here to help! Plus, mention this blog and I will give you mates rates.

Try one, and let me know how you get in in the Facebizzle comments.

 

T xx

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Sorting yo shit out

So ladies.

Are you where you want to be beauty and clothing wise? (Doing a blog about inside feelings soon, not that superficial!! :))

Along with sorting out yourself inside, you need to sort yourself on the outside. Here are some things to do to make sure your look extra speech.

  1. Get your nails done.
    Now I don’t mean go all the time, or getting those crazy long nails that crazy people get and somehow live with. I mean go get them buffed, oiled, and painted. Then you can do this at home! Get some moisturiser that has no perfumes (Simple’s range is good) slather some on, put on some gloves and sit there sipping  Chardon for an hour watching your stories.
  2. Get yo toes done. I went to a place where they did the paraffin wax thing on your feet – so good! They also did my nails and made sure my feet transformed from troll feet to lady troll feet. It was magical. At home, get the same cream as above, pop on your feet and pop some cotton socks on and see the results for yourself (infomercial voice)
  3. Get your eyebrows did.
    I am so glad that I did not pluck my eyebrows into oblivion. Thank you for bringing my bushly eyebrows back into fashion. However everyone needs to get their eyebrows plucked and shaped. Why? It will make you look so good! I had a friend that got hers tattooed on. Now Im a baby to even think of that but you can see that they are important to some people. If you have small eyebrows get on the internet and see how others made theirs into things of beauty.
  4. Transform your wardrobe as done in last blog and watch your wardrobe come to life!
  5. Drink water, eat fruit and veggies run, dance, get out of the house. This will make you look  great and glowy.
  6. Dentist and doctor appointments every six months. Get to a dentist hygienist too, they clean your teeth super good.
  7. As my girl Cher in Clueless says, read a good book now and then. Reading really makes you relax and when the stresses of the working week get to you, a chapter or two of a good book can work wonders for your mental health. Unless you are reading IT. Eeeeek
  8. Get yo hair chopped every three months and dyed every six. Then you can pretend you are in those Pantene commercials. *flips hair*
  9. Facemask yourself at least once a week. If you live in a city, all kinds of crap gets into your face and makes you look old and tired. Get a good charcoal mask on and sip a glass of wine.
  10. Laughter is the best medicine. It really is true! Makes you glow, get pink cheeks, and makes the boys come to your yard. Or Milkshakes. Ahem.

T xx

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January ClearOut

Hi team!

So it is the new year, and no doubt all of you would have emerged from the rubble of New Years Eve with a resolution. Don’t we all? I had so many this last year, don’t even get me started on how many I didn’t complete (har har)

So as I am a wardrobe consultant, I encourage you to say good bye to your clothes that you have hung on for for too long, and get to the heart of you and who you are, and who you want to project to the world.

I went to a modelling class when I was in high school (don’t even ask) and they taught you how to put on makeup and  walk, and gave us a list of every piece of clothing you need in your wardrobe. The last part I took and used in my wardrobe and it works!

Here is a not exhaustive list, but a list to get you on your way.

2 pairs of black trousers, 1 formal, 1 casual.

2 white shirts, 1 formal, 1 casual

Jeans. I will take you shopping for jeans, I worked in Levis and I know what fits and what doesn’t. Either way, 5 pairs in different varying colours in your perfect fit is a must.

The black dress. If you don’t have this, your wardrobe is nothing without it. It is your power dress, perfect for dates, interviews, and even funerals when you want to be strong, this is it.

1 pair of running shoes, 1 pair of heels, 1 pair of boots, 1 pair of flats. All so basic, but these will see you through and when they are worn out, replace with whatever you like in the fashions at the time.

A big brimmed hat. Get one, it will always make you feel amazing and dressed up, no one wears hats anymore, seriously don’t understand why.

Get your underwear game sorted. Throw out THOSE pairs, you know what ones I mean, invest in good quality underwear and don’t skimp, as you wear these all day, every day, and when you want to make babies without the babies.

Socks. Big socks, ankle socks, slipper socks, novelty socks. Buy as many as will fit in your drawer. No one judges on how many socks you have. You are not a ‘weird sock lady’.

As we are in January, lets talk coats next. Get a big jacket that will make sure you are warm all day – lets say you are out at an event all day watching a marathon or something. Will it keep you warm all day?  Also invest in a leather jacket, fake leather is just as good as real leather these days and comes in all kinds of colours, black is the classic, however let your own taste come into your own choosing. Next, pick a coat that looks good for both formal and casual. What comes to mind is a trench coat, which is fab, but really follow how the trench coat looks with a formal look and go from there, there are many coats very similar.

This is a very basic list, but once you get started, you will get on a roll, I promise. Book with me if you want me to help too, I love doing wardrobes and I get really excited for people and the new adventures they are going to have with their fab clothes!

Have you started a wardrobe cull? Comment me, let me know how it’s going!

T xx

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The Mermaid’s Wardrobe

I recently went around to a lovely friend of mine and redid her wardrobe according to my wardrobe rules. She has a fun bohemian style with a lot of elephants featured in her clothing and a lot of strong jewel tones.

We started with her wardrobe. Now she is the same as me and has clothes from when she started Uni. Now Uni is a time where you experiment with various things, including your wardrobe, when you are cute and wearing shorter and tighter things, or stuff that is super crazy. Now this is appropriate for that age, but at the ages we are at, this is not cool. Luckily her items were still appropriate but some had to go due to being lovingly worn.

Next up, formal dresses. A lot of these are needing to be altered so had to be put into a pile of items to be sewn. The pricier the item, the more it is okay to get it altered or tailored. On a cheap H&M top? No no. You can also dye old dresses or have them shortened to make them even more wardrobe.

During this rummage, we discovered that my lady friend had a very definite style. She had a lot of elephant tops, and also lots of strong colours. This was interesting as she didn’t see that she had a definitive style. The other thing was that there were a LOT of items I had  never seen on her before and there was some cool items!!

We hung up the items in her wardrobe in the following order:

Work wardrobe, Tops, Trousers, Sweaters, Dresses.

I also always encourage items that are formal to be put in another place with plastic covers so they don’t get touched when you are rummaging through your wardrobe.

We put some new outfits together and I also encouraged her to invest in many different belts as these define your waist and are a great accessory.

Top tips:

  1. Age appropriate wardrobe
  2. Separate work wardrobe at the front of your wardrobe so you don’t have to rummage everyday.
  3. Sit back and look at the colours and styles of your clothing. What is your style?
  4. Invest in your formal wardrobe so they are always ready to go with events.
  5. Don’t feel you have to get a whole new wardrobe when you strip your old one.
  6. Experiment with putting items together and adding accessories to revive old classics.

Next up, a lady who loves Disney and has an amazing wardrobe!