How To Make Friends

Life

Hi guys!

So this weeks topic is all about making friends. Making friends is tough at any age. You may live in a big city full of people and feel a little lonely. It can be hard to break into groups who are fully established and have their own routine.

However there are many avenues you can try.

  1. If you have a partner, see what their friends are like. Who are your mutual friends? Who are friends of friends that sometimes come to events and you don’t see much? If you think you might get along with someone, talk to them at your next meeting, and then arrange to go out for coffee!
  2. Join a club doing something you enjoy. The gym, knitting group, walks around your town or city, or even volunteer at a charity shop! If you enjoy doing something, you will find people who will enjoy it too, and there is your first thing in common.
  3. Get to know people online. I have some Twitter friends that I have now become friends with in real life, which is amazing! You can chat over social media and then meet up for a drink or a coffee and see how you mesh – and the best part is it really is just continuing the conversation!
  4. Join Facebook Groups! I have joined a few for work and for personal and it really feels like a little group all bonded over one or several topics – plus if they are in your town or city thats even better!
  5. Work friends – now this one is a little trickier as you might have to also make sure work doesn’t interfere with your budding friendship but you may spend 40 hours with the people you work with – why not go out for an afterwork drink with some of them? This will help you at work also, and means that your work life can be a fun place to be for the days that you are there. Plus you might be friends with them outside of work which can be really fufiling.

Are there any tips I am missing? Let me know in the comments!

T xx

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My Evening Routine!

Life

Hi guys!

So I wrote about my Morning Routine and now I am focusing on my Evening routine! This can vary but if I’m working in the office or if I have work the next day I do try to keep to it to make sure I’m ready for the day ahead.

  1. Exercise. I count meditation as an exercise as it is just as important but I will do a mixture of things such as Meditation, Core work, Running, and Yoga – depending on what I am in the mood for. Its good to run off everything that happened over the day, especially if it was a stressful one, and to stretch myself from being hunched over a desk.
  2. I usually blog for twenty minutes, as its a nice creative time of the evening and means that I can keep on top of my blog posts by plugging away at it each week. And I haven’t run out of ideas yet!
  3. I tidy a different room each day of the week, so I can keep up with my housework through the week and then can enjoy the weekend. I give each room about twenty minutes so I don’t spend forever and then any big things can wait for the weekend.
  4. I usually get into bed for ten and spend that hour reading. I have a lot of magazines and books that I read so I try to stay off my phone for that hour and get into a good book.
  5. Lastly I put hand and cuticle cream on, and I have aromatherapy oil that are in little roller bottles that I put on my pillow to lull me into sleep.

This routine really works for me, as I tend to have trouble sleeping when I have anxiety so doing exercise, reading, and having the routine really helps me relax and get a good nights sleep and be ready for that 7:15 alarm! (Ugh).

Do you have an evening routine? Let me know in the comments!

T xx

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My Morning Routine.

Life

Hi guys!

So today I am talking about my morning routine. As someone who has anxiety establishing a morning routine has been instrumental to my recovery and also sets me up for the day properly. I am also improving it all the time to further suit me and what I need that day. There are also some steps that I do need to cut out but its a process OKAY.

  1. Alarm goes off at 7:15am. I then hop on my phone to check social media – now I know that that is the worst thing you can do first thing – however since I am from New Zealand my friends and family have been posting while I am asleep so Facebook gives me the best of that morning so I am caught up with the family gossip. I then get up for half 7 when the radio comes on.
  2. I have my breakfast, watching clips on Youtube. I like to be by myself in the morning, as I get used to being awake, thinking about what I have to do for the day, and having a moment to myself before the loudness of the day starts.
  3. I have a shower and get ready. Since I don’t have to wear makeup for work, lately this has been a quick thing but it depends on the day. I love not wearing makeup and have seen such a difference in my skin.
  4. I would have set up my bag and everything so I can just grab and go. I don’t deal well with finding keys, forgetting things, etc. So I get my bag and everything ready to go so I can jump out the door (especially as I am running late).
  5. I walk to work. I love walking to work and it was something that was fundamental to me when I was looking for a job when I moved back to Edinburgh. I don’t mind the bus but I love to go out and stretch my legs before sitting at a desk all day.

Because I am self employed, when I am not in the office, my day changes a little – I may sleep in a little longer, play some of my games and do my French practise, before I get up and get ready for the day. A slow start to the morning definitely agrees with me, and I tend to work later in the afternoon/evening so I know that taking this time now sets me up for the day.

What’s your morning routine like? Let me know in the comments!

T xx

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Why Everyone Should Have Therapy.

Life, Mental Health

Hi guys!

This week I am talking about my experience going to a therapist! I have talked to people over the years about therapy, and seen different experiences and results. The main issues are cost and finding a therapist that really gets you. This can be very difficult if you are under real stress and really need someone experienced to help you.

I found my therapist by doing a lot of research. A good method is to pick a few and go to them for a session. Some places also do taster sessions so you can get to know someone and decide they are right for you.

I liked mine as she made therapy very relaxed and interesting. She brought up studies that would apply to me – almost giving me homework and the initiative to research for myself. I had a cup of tea if I wanted, and a nice quiet relaxed room.

It can be very nerve-wracking opening up for the first time. My therapist was really good in letting me talk when I needed to talk, and asking me probing questions to get me past my stock answers to the nitty gritty. It was funny every time I showed up and she asked how I was I said ‘fine’ which I obviously wasn’t but it’s something we are programmed in to say. However after a few well placed questions we were easily down to the real issues.

I saw my therapist after each burnout, and each time we got more and more into why I burnt out and got deeper into issues and preventing it from happening again. I only maybe had three or four sessions, but these gave me the tools I needed to work on myself and make some major life choices (including quitting retail and following my dreams).

I recommend therapy to everyone. It really does help. Myself and my husband are passionate about mental health, especially in men, and when I heard that one of my friends when to therapy and he found it really interesting, I was so happy to hear. It can be hard for anyone to talk to a stranger about deeply personal issues, but it really helps release a lot and gets you out of your head.

You may think it’s going to be a cliche, or that you dont need it, but I definitely think it is for everyone, with varying degrees. You might only need a session here or there to keep yourself right, or you may need a few intensive sessions to get yourself back on track or to tackle some deeper issues so you can work through them. Either way, I hope you do get to experience it once in your life and see how it works for you. It has helped so many people as qualified therapists tackle their issues and make them see a better way of life!

Have you ever been to a therapist?

T xx

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