Being an INFJ

Hi team,

So this week I am talking about being an INFJ personality type.

INFJ’s make up less than 1% of the worlds population, and well known INFJ’s are people such as Nelson Mandela, Alanis Morissette, and Oprah.

People who are INFJ’s look to help the world. They want to run for charity, but most importantly we want to help people to not become statistics.

INFJ’s firmly believe in the phrase “All you need is Love”, and use this strategy to win over people. Don’t get them wrong, they can be very strong in their opinions and are decisive and strong-willed. However they will not use this for their own gain. but want to make life fair for everyone.

INFJ’s love people, but can also withdraw to recharge. So when you are talking to an INFJ you may feel you are talking to an extrovert, however don’t be surprised when they shut off. It’s for their own health. Talking of which, burnout is a big factor for INFJ’s. They give too much of themselves to other people, and can also take criticism very hard and personally. With friends, they love quality. They prefer an hour of deep conversation to a small talk ten minute coffee.

The combination of being creative, empathetic, decisive and inspiring is something that the INJF uses to forward their beliefs. If an INFJ tells you they are going to climb Mt Everest, you can believe that they have a plan and the will to see it through, especially if it is for a cause they believe in.

However there are some weaknesses to this personality, as there are with any other one, such as being quite sensitive to conflict and criticism as mentioned before. They are private and will retreat. However if you show a genuine interest in them they will respond well. They need to have something to believe in and fight for – and through this fighting they can burn out very easily if they aren’t careful.

INFJ’s want to find their lobster. They want to find ‘The One’ who they connect with and they look to build lasting relationships with their chosen one.  They can be picky, and can see when people aren’t being their real selves, which can help in the initial stages of a relationship.

INFJ’s crave real friends. They don’t want superficial, they want the 3am talks at 10:30 in the morning. They detest small talk and really just want to talk openly and honestly with you. They can be hard to make friends with in the workplace, but if you share their passions and interests, then they will be a great friend to you. You do need to work at them a little bit, being a little private it takes them a while to open up.

 INFJ’s hate gaining power, and try to avoid people that want to gain power. You won’t see them on Instagram with their shiny highlighted face and new car.
When it comes to their career, INFJ’s do tend to avoid corporate paths, as it doesn’t fit their life journey. and this goes hand in hand with not wanting to acquire power. INFJ’s also have a hard time deciding what they want to do, being pulled in many different directions. They suit roles as life coaches, doctors, and counsellors because these job choices help people directly. They also want to be creative in their chosen career.
They also thrive setting up their own business, as they can plan their own workload and career goals. Often INFJ’s also go into writing, music, photography and art.
I love being an INFJ, and I love even more that I know what I am and why. It’s saved a lot of stress and overreaching the last few years, and also lets me know when and where to push myself.
Are you a INFJ? Let me know in the comments!
T xx
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I went on a Meerkat Experience!

Hi team!

So this week I am talking about my Meerkat Experience!

My lovely Mum gave me a Meerkat Experience for Edinburgh Zoo last year, and I thought I would book it for this year, during my birthday month! Unfortunately we had to reschedule due to Beast from the East (thanks) but we got it sorted and I headed to the zoo on a rainy morning (nothing was going to stop me!)

I got there early and decided to check out the Otters talk, which was very informative, and the otters thought I was there to feed them, but turns out their keeper was behind me (sad face). It was very cute as they are super pathetic with their squeaks of pretending to be starting. They ate defrosted mice for lunch.

I then went through the pelican walkthrough, which as it was raining they were all chilling on a rock but was very cool to see them up close.

I  then went to see the painted hunter dogs and they were inside right up against the glass, as I think they were waiting to see what their keeper was doing outside. They are super cute and so fluffy, with awesome markings.

After 12 I went to meet up with the keeper who was taking me. They are only restricted to two people and it was just me, so it was really fun getting a one on one and I asked loads of questions. We went to one of the meerkats enclosures (the boys one) and I was told that I would be feeding them and also giving them toys to play with (weeeee!)

We went and got all the food and then started to head into the enclosure. The meerkats have tunnels all over their enclosure so they could already see us coming in and were looking very curious. We went through the two sets of doors and popped in.

They weren’t overly sure at first, but they started to come in and look around and get used to me. We had to step very carefully as they are quick and we might accidentally stand on toes or tails. We then set up a little empty paddling pool with coloured balls for them to play in and then started to get their food sorted.

For that day’s menu we were feeding them live locusts and mealworms. It was quite something to open up the bag and see a lot of live locusts in the bag, but I grabbed a big handful and threw them into the pool for them to eat. Suddenly they all came flying in, and when I was too slow putting the food in (i.e. 1 second) they were all standing up and looking at me. I finished the bag and then started putting the meal worms in also.

Once they were finished they started moving around the enclosure more, with some climbing up my leg and tapping my leg with their paw, rather like a cat does, looking for more food. They went all around me and often when I looked behind me there was one sitting there. I couldn’t pat them or put my hands near them as they bite quite hard and their claws are quite sharp but I took a lot of photos and the keeper was kind enough to take a few for me.

I asked the keeper about if they had tried to train the meerkats to do certain tasks at all, and she said yes, but there was an issue. They had tried to get the meerkats to hit a target, however all of them wanted to hit the target, all at once. They also all wanted the treat that came with it. So they are smart, but just very very enthusiastic. They get right into it once they are comfortable, hence why this experience is such a great thing for them and for zoo visitors.

We packed up and then headed out of the enclosure with the equipment, when she informed me that she had a surprise animal for me to see. It was a an armadillo, which I love! I was meeting the baby Inti. We woke her up and I got to hold her. The shell is pretty amazing, and she was very relaxed. I fed her some mealworms, and then we put her back into her enclosure so she could sleep! I was so pleased to see one so up close, and felt lucky to have had that added onto my experience.

I’d like to thank Edinburgh Zoo for putting on such a great experience for me, and the keeper who took me in particular (I totally forgot your name, I’m sorry!). Thank you to my Mum and Gordon for coordinating this also, was the best birthday present ever!

T xx

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Birthday Goals!

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So this blog is published on the first day after my 32nd birthday! I am probably hungover   but I am definitely at work. It’s been a pretty crazy year but I thought I would make a few goals for the next year to keep my trajectory going, as I feel I’m on a pretty good roll lately!

This last year has been a bit crazy. From giving blood for the first time, quitting retail, finding my dream career and getting a job that allows me to progress, going to courses, burning out, visiting New Zealand to see my family, its been pretty full on. It’s definitely been a growth year for myself and I definitely want to keep progressing.

So without further ado, here are the goals!

  1. Go on a trip! I have a few locations in mind, but as I am terrible for taking holidays and am now self employed, I am definitely going to take the opportunity to get away somewhere fun, and it doesn’t even have to be far!
  2. Have my business set up and rolling with more clients! (quite an exciting goal for myself).
  3. Get my full driving license in the UK. I basically have to start from scratch as the stages in NZ are different. Which may be a good thing as I haven’t driven for about 9 years.
  4. I have been relearning French via Duolingo for the last year, and this year I would like to complete the full course, so next time I go to Paris I can actually speak to the locals properly.
  5. Enter my blog for awards! I am about two years into the game of blogging and have not entered a single competition yet. It would be fun to enter and see how this little blog does.
  6. Give blood again. I liked doing it the first time so am going to try and do it every three months.
  7. Get my citizenship sorted. I have been here for nine years and have been going through the process so this is the year to bring it home.
  8. Throw more events with the Braw Blogger Events team. It has been amazing to be a part of this team and help throw two events, so long may it continue.

Have you set any goals for your birthday? Let me know what they are in the comments.

T xx

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Brand Profile: Hungry Designs!

Hi team!

This week I am highlighting one of my favourite finds – Hungry Designs!

Hungry Designs is a business run by Amanda Whiteley from Brisbane, Australia.

She specialises in illustration and print, with a fantastic skill drawing Disney characters. She has also just moved into Amber Cabochon brooches which are fabulous. Here are some of her designs below:

 

 

 

She graduated with Honours in Illustration and Printmaking and she specialises in comic  style art prints. As you can see above she does a fantastic range of characters with many different medias and designs. If you follow her on Instagram she also has a brilliant feed to follow!

Here are all her details below:

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T xx

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Packing for Holiday

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So this week I am talking about packing for your holiday!

It’s all very exciting, you have picked your location, and are counting down the days. However what I find is that a lot of people, especially if they are going to a sunny place, often find they have major gaps in their wardrobe when it comes to the sun.

The result is you go and panic buy, resulting in a lot of clothes that you only wear on holiday, and often only once.

In my wardrobe consultations I have come across holiday clothing, and while you can’t wear a sarong in Scotland at any point of the year (soz) you can make a pile in your wardrobe or in your attic for holiday clothes that you can wear year after year. After all, you are on holiday only once or twice a year, (maybe more, if you are living your best life), so those clothes can last.

Treating yourself. I always feel that the treat is the holiday. The problem with a lot of people is that they start treating themselves straight away, then only wear the item once or twice, then ditch it. This isn’t a great way of doing it. You can however update your holiday wardrobe every year with one or two key items that will make sure you still look on trend, but you aren’t going to not wear it after the holiday.

So, packing for your holiday. Always overpack underwear. Always.

Wear trousers and tops twice, unless you get really sweaty and or you spill pasta down it (me). If you can do washing on your holiday, do it. You will thank yourself when you are getting down to the dregs of the clothes that you saved to wear but didn’t end up wearing and now look a little nuts.

The other tip is while it is great to go exotic with prints that you might not normally wear, make sure it goes with something else in your suitcase, otherwise you will never find a place to wear it and it would have been a waste of space where you could have put all your souvenirs.

Take a few different pairs of shoes. One for when you are out out, one chilling, and one speciality (flip flops, snow boots, etc).

Take two different bags for when you are exploring, one big one and one small one. You don’t want to try and fit all your souvenirs into the smallest bag you have, it doesn’t look great!

One of the pitfalls I used to have is that I would take all the stuff I would not normally wear, because I thought that when I was on holiday I would have the confidence to pull it off. No, not really. When I wanted to be in holiday more, I actually wanted to be comfy and cool, fashionable but without the hassle of putting outfits together. This is where having a suitcase where everything works with everything does so well, as you want to be out the door doing stuff.

Be prepared for rain. Take a rain jacket. It sounds depressing I know but juuuuuuuust in case.

Take a different wallet for holiday, especially if you are travelling to a foreign country. Hence you only take what you need to take, and it means that you don’t get confused about where is what.

Take advantage of the limits for suitcases. Of course allow room for duty free and souvenirs, but take advantage of the full limit, and then you can have more range for what you can wear, especially if you get packing regret.

Have you got any more tips? Comment!

T xx

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Brand Profile: Heather More Illustration

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This weeks Brand Profile is on one of my favourite artists, Heather More. I met Heather at a networking event and she was so lovely! We ended up having her at two of our Braw Blogger Events (plug plug) and her stand stood out due to her amazing art and products!

Here are some images below of my favourite work from her, including the artist herself!

 

What I like about Heather is that she has got a really fun take on things, and she also posts a lot of art to her Facebook, including when she sketches places she travels to. I get a lot of her products and get a lot people asking where I get it from, which truly proves that shopping local really works if you want to be a bit more individual. Heather has also done many art exhibitions and has also done work for the NHS and the Skinny.

Like what you see? Here are all the need to know links below:

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Goals For Spring

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So I’m going to go all basic on you and share my goals for Spring! Mainly as it starts properly this week and I am super sick of winter now, I just want to wear my pink leather jacket OKAY

  1. Get out and run more. I would say that my exercise regimen has been building over winter, and now that I have a normal job, I can go running on the weekend or days off. I definitely want to be in a good place by the end of Spring and keep improving my personal best!
  2. Eat better. I ate like a pig this winter. Luckily I am a fan of big jumpers however my highwaisted jeans are not happy with me at the moment. Plus I want to be a bit healthier than I am and keep making good food choices.
  3. Get a holiday booked. I am so looking forward to getting some sun, and have a couple of destinations in mind! I so need some Vitamin D.
  4. Get my bathroom done. I know, so adult. I really do have a bathtub in my lounge though. That needs to change.
  5. Sort out my flower garden. I have planted stuff over the years but I need to plant more. I have bought sunflowers and lilies for this year, and can’t wait to see them in action
  6. Host a BBQ. Perhaps more for summer, but we have had very kind friends who have had us over numerous times over the winter so we are repaying everyone by hosting a BBQ on a nice summer day!

What’s your goals for the next three months? Anything similar?

T xx

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My Haul from the Cats Protection Charity Shop!

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So I love a good charity shop. I used to volunteer for Barnardo’s (blog linked below) and I loved it. I went through a major wardrobe revamp once I realised my style that I used to love wearing didn’t fit me as a person now, so I donated it to Barnardos. I love the idea of a second or third life for clothing, especially in this era of fast fashion. I also love to pick up new items for my wardrobe as well, to fit my current style.

I was at a loose end near my place and popped into the Cats Protection charity shop for a nosy. It’s the newer kid on the blog when it comes to Stockbridge’s well established charity shops, but they always have great fashion in their windows and a nice aesthetic to their shop.

I had a wander and immediately picked up this fab green Zara top. Such a beautiful sheen and I knew it would fit into my wardrobe immediately. It was so affordable also and in really great condition. The next thing I picked up was this great roll neck crop top from Sparkle and Bright. Really different and a nice addition to my winter jumper collection. There was also some great Asos faux snakeskin shoes but they did not fit and I was sad.

The Cats Protection charity celebrated 90 years last year. They championed neutering, saving cats after the war, and today they also help owners with grief after the loss of their cat, speak up for cats, and are the leading charity for cats in the United Kingdom.

I look forward to shopping there much more in the future and helping to support our little furry cats of all ages.

What charity bargains have you gotten lately?

T xx

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How I stopped playing a Victim and took control of my life!

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So in my blog last week I talked about the comfort of depression. While I was in my depression there was some characteristics I didn’t like about myself  that I am constantly working on every day. I have another symptom that might have happened to you, and I certainly know a lot of people that have this. The important thing is moving on and growing from it.

So I want to talk about being a victim. I’m sure you know people like this. Oh this happened to me. This person did this to me.

The road to managing your depression and anxiety is a long one. You will have many amazing moments along the way and truly get to know yourself, and then you have moments that set you back.

I recently became aware of a stage a long time ago that I had turned into a “victim”. I shared when I was sick, I made excuses for things, I said “it happened to me”. I turned into a version of myself that I thought I would never be, and refusing to take ownership and work through a situation.

Part of this is my hatred of being told off especially in front of people, or people thinking I am bad at my job or homelife. I get really anxious and get a bit shaky. Then I refuse to do something about it.

I’ve recently learned something – that people that challenge your self esteem or your self worth are either full blown douche bags – OR – they see your potential and are forcing you to do better than you are. I got challenged a lot and it made me go inward instead of thinking and using my skills to get through the situation and deal with it properly. It also meant people around me started to shoulder the weight of me refusing to deal with issues, which is not their fault.

I tried a different way of approaching things and not working to a formula. I treated challenges as levelling up myself, and worked to support the people in my life and be more proactive. I recently heard a quote – “Lukewarm is no good”, and it really does apply to life!

So here are some things that are helping me to not be a victim.

  1. Take ownership. If you do something good, yell about it. If you do something bad, own up and offer a solution.
  2. Don’t make excuses. “I was late because of this,” “I’m sick,” etc etc. They switch off people. If you are sick, stay at home. If you are late, think about re-adjusting your travel time. Show up and work hard in all facets of your life. Even if you need to clean the oven (ugh hate that job).
  3. Look at routines and ask how they can change. Try new ways of doing things and you might find something that works really well.
  4. React quickly. The old tested one is if someone comes in (a friend) and is feeling a bit low, shove them a cup of tea and a biscuit and make them take a minute. Then help to sort our their problem. At work, if something isn’t going to plan, try plan B.

I am consistently finding out things about myself that surprise me but we all do, on the journey to recovery. If you start thinking hey, I don’t like when I do this, start thinking about ways to change it and yourself for the better. And remember, it’s a work in progress, not an overnight thing. You just have to work on it!

T xx

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Brand Profile: The Auld Connection

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So this weeks Brand Profile is Auld Connection. I first encountered this brand at the Biscuit Factory event in Leith, and was face deep in all of their goodies before finally looking up and realising I knew one of them from work! This was her side hustle along with her job, and looking at the product I was amazed at how much work had gone into the ideas and design. One of them is French, and one of them is Scottish, and they do many fairs so you may have seen them around already!

On their website they say their work is ‘inspired by travels in Scotland and beyond, wandering like tourists in our home city and a love of colour, nature and animals (cats in particular!)’. They do prints, cards, magnets, and badges, and even their business cards get in on the design!

The range of products they do is pretty amazing and I love the Edinburgh feel to it all. They are very proud of the heritage of Scotland and their take on it so unique! They do everything from pins to wall hangings, and a pretty great selection of greeting cards! They even do a print centred around the pandas from Edinburgh Zoo!

Here are my favs below:

 

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T xx

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