So with wedding season coming up in Britain I thought I would talk about my own wedding! I got married on the 15th February, 2014. It was nonconventional and I learned a lot about myself and what I want in the process, so this blog will talk about that!
So we got engaged when we lived in Birmingham. Then the planning started. As I am from New Zealand and my husband is from Scotland, we had to figure out where we were going to have the ‘proper’ wedding. After doing a poll of our relatives and friends, it made more sense to have the wedding in New Zealand, as I wanted my family to be there and Gordon’s family and any friends we had in the UK could come over and see New Zealand for the first time.
I had a notion of wanting to get married at my old Girl Guide camp but it was ruled out by logistics. Then my husband suggested the Performing Arts Centre at my old university at Hamilton. One of our mutual friends worked there and could help us with the set up, lighting, sound etc. We wouldn’t have the chance to come over and scope out the building in person until we got over for our wedding, so a good amount of trust was put in on that end. I knew the building anyway as I did Screen and Media in my degree so had been in a few times. I knew it was great, overlooked one of the lakes on campus, was relatively private, and our friend would do an amazing job.
This friend also stepped up and him and his band The Monroes played at our wedding also! My husband had worked and known them for years and we were all friends so it made sense for them to play as they can pretty much play anything under the sun, and could have something for everyone there.
Speaking of everyone, we invited over 200 people. We had watched people go through the agony of keeping to a list, not inviting or inviting, and having to invite someones second uncle twice removed, and we were not here for it. If we invited everyone that had touched our lives and that we thought we would definitely see in our lives going forward, this would not be an issue. I get really annoyed when people get harassed about who they invite or don’t invite so we solved the problem! And in the end, about 150 showed up, and for the whole day, so it was actually fine.
I picked up my wedding dress, from Monsoon, for £250. It was the first one I tried on, my mother and best friend weren’t there, and I had gotten rejected from a job there. Funny huh? It was beautiful, with a grecian look and an angel sleeve, light and perfect for the heat, and loose so I could eat all the food on my wedding day. This shopping experience was perfect as I knew what I wanted and I hate traipsing around the shops and doing the champagne thing. Too much.
Speaking of food, we decided to put on a huge BBQ. We thought we’d rather feed everyone to death, and with food that was popular with everyone. Plus it was summertime in New Zealand and it would be criminal to not have a BBQ going somewhere. We also had pavlova and one of my bridesmaids mums made this stunning cake. It was so needed as I was very hungry!!
For my bridesmaids, I picked my nearest and dearest, two of my oldest friends, my sister and my sister in law. They got to pick their own dresses and I just asked if it were pastel colours to suit the day. I hand made their bouquets in place of real flowers so it was something that they could keep and have a memory of.
Our celebrant is one of Gordy’s former coworkers, who now does a lot of things, but is a fantastic celebrant. She really personalised our ceremony and guided us through quite a nerve-wracking day! Her name is K-M Adams if you are in NZ and need a great celebrant!
Here are some pictures of the day!
Next week I will go into more detail, and of course, more pictures!
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