Goals For Winter

Life

Hi guys!

So now that we are fully into Wintertime, I wanted to look at my goals for the next three months! Its really good doing goals and setting a 3 month timer on them as it really gets my butt into gear!

  1. Enforce the winter fitness training  program that I was meant to undertake last winter and get fitter in time for summer! This isn’t about getting a ‘bikini body’ – just making sure I am fit and healthy to enjoy summer!
  2. Make sure I eat healthier during the winter months. I ate very badly last winter – not that there is anything wrong with that but I definitely wasn’t getting all the nutrients I needed! So lots of veges are going to be consumed!
  3. Make sure the cold weather doesn’t deter me from going out and spending time with friends! It can be very easy to just stay put in the warmth of my own house but there is also something nice about coming into a nice warm pub out of the cold.
  4. Take care of my house and make sure we are progressing forward with our house renovations! This is the perfect season to get lots of stuff done indoors and transform it into a homely home.
  5. Self care – its important to get this sorted in the winter months so it doesn’t become all about doom and gloom. Lots of hot baths, pampering, good books, and hot cups of coffee. This will all help in maintaining a positive outlook in the depth of winter!

What are your winter goals? Let me know in the comments!

T xx

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Letting Go Of Friends.

Life

Hi guys!

So this blog deals with a topic that can be quite painful for a lot of people, and in fact has happened to everyone. It is about the ways we lose, let go, or fall out with friends.

The first time you may lose a friend is if your friend moves away. I moved away from my best friend to the UK and it’s been hard. However it’s only strengthened our friendship but I know for a lot of people it can break friendships. There are friends I am no longer as close to simply by being in a different country. It can be very hard to accept, however when I visit it means I can visit the ride or dies.

The other way you can lose a friend is simply growing up. This can often start from puberty onwards as you discover boys/girls and where you are in the world. Its something that does naturally happen, and will continue to happen as you move through high school and get to know yourself and who you want as a friend through a tough time of growing up.

The other time is when people get married and have children. You might not lose them as a friend, but if you aren’t having kids around the same time or indeed ever – because  their lives are now filled with their kids it can be hard for them to see you and vice versa.

The other more in your face way is if you have an actual fight and never make up. This is very painful, as you feel like you are throwing years of friendship down the drain. It can be very hard to come to terms with – people have likened it to a break up. This one can do a bit a of damage and also make you lose mutual friends in the bargain.

Losing friends can be painful, sad, needed, and fine – and all at the same time sometimes. Sometimes you have a toxic friend who doesn’t care about you, just themselves, and this is when you need to let them go. As I’ve gotten older I’ve realised it’s not about the quantity of friends, its the quality. I now have some very close knit friends who we’ve been through weddings, divorces, children, and death. These friends have supported me through my depression, and I have supported them. I have lost a lot of friends to help this happen, but its the greatest payoff as I know who my friends will be until the end of time.

I hope that if you lose a friend, you will gain one more that will enrich your life better than the last!

T xx

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How To Make Friends

Life

Hi guys!

So this weeks topic is all about making friends. Making friends is tough at any age. You may live in a big city full of people and feel a little lonely. It can be hard to break into groups who are fully established and have their own routine.

However there are many avenues you can try.

  1. If you have a partner, see what their friends are like. Who are your mutual friends? Who are friends of friends that sometimes come to events and you don’t see much? If you think you might get along with someone, talk to them at your next meeting, and then arrange to go out for coffee!
  2. Join a club doing something you enjoy. The gym, knitting group, walks around your town or city, or even volunteer at a charity shop! If you enjoy doing something, you will find people who will enjoy it too, and there is your first thing in common.
  3. Get to know people online. I have some Twitter friends that I have now become friends with in real life, which is amazing! You can chat over social media and then meet up for a drink or a coffee and see how you mesh – and the best part is it really is just continuing the conversation!
  4. Join Facebook Groups! I have joined a few for work and for personal and it really feels like a little group all bonded over one or several topics – plus if they are in your town or city thats even better!
  5. Work friends – now this one is a little trickier as you might have to also make sure work doesn’t interfere with your budding friendship but you may spend 40 hours with the people you work with – why not go out for an afterwork drink with some of them? This will help you at work also, and means that your work life can be a fun place to be for the days that you are there. Plus you might be friends with them outside of work which can be really fufiling.

Are there any tips I am missing? Let me know in the comments!

T xx

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My Evening Routine!

Life

Hi guys!

So I wrote about my Morning Routine and now I am focusing on my Evening routine! This can vary but if I’m working in the office or if I have work the next day I do try to keep to it to make sure I’m ready for the day ahead.

  1. Exercise. I count meditation as an exercise as it is just as important but I will do a mixture of things such as Meditation, Core work, Running, and Yoga – depending on what I am in the mood for. Its good to run off everything that happened over the day, especially if it was a stressful one, and to stretch myself from being hunched over a desk.
  2. I usually blog for twenty minutes, as its a nice creative time of the evening and means that I can keep on top of my blog posts by plugging away at it each week. And I haven’t run out of ideas yet!
  3. I tidy a different room each day of the week, so I can keep up with my housework through the week and then can enjoy the weekend. I give each room about twenty minutes so I don’t spend forever and then any big things can wait for the weekend.
  4. I usually get into bed for ten and spend that hour reading. I have a lot of magazines and books that I read so I try to stay off my phone for that hour and get into a good book.
  5. Lastly I put hand and cuticle cream on, and I have aromatherapy oil that are in little roller bottles that I put on my pillow to lull me into sleep.

This routine really works for me, as I tend to have trouble sleeping when I have anxiety so doing exercise, reading, and having the routine really helps me relax and get a good nights sleep and be ready for that 7:15 alarm! (Ugh).

Do you have an evening routine? Let me know in the comments!

T xx

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My Morning Routine.

Life

Hi guys!

So today I am talking about my morning routine. As someone who has anxiety establishing a morning routine has been instrumental to my recovery and also sets me up for the day properly. I am also improving it all the time to further suit me and what I need that day. There are also some steps that I do need to cut out but its a process OKAY.

  1. Alarm goes off at 7:15am. I then hop on my phone to check social media – now I know that that is the worst thing you can do first thing – however since I am from New Zealand my friends and family have been posting while I am asleep so Facebook gives me the best of that morning so I am caught up with the family gossip. I then get up for half 7 when the radio comes on.
  2. I have my breakfast, watching clips on Youtube. I like to be by myself in the morning, as I get used to being awake, thinking about what I have to do for the day, and having a moment to myself before the loudness of the day starts.
  3. I have a shower and get ready. Since I don’t have to wear makeup for work, lately this has been a quick thing but it depends on the day. I love not wearing makeup and have seen such a difference in my skin.
  4. I would have set up my bag and everything so I can just grab and go. I don’t deal well with finding keys, forgetting things, etc. So I get my bag and everything ready to go so I can jump out the door (especially as I am running late).
  5. I walk to work. I love walking to work and it was something that was fundamental to me when I was looking for a job when I moved back to Edinburgh. I don’t mind the bus but I love to go out and stretch my legs before sitting at a desk all day.

Because I am self employed, when I am not in the office, my day changes a little – I may sleep in a little longer, play some of my games and do my French practise, before I get up and get ready for the day. A slow start to the morning definitely agrees with me, and I tend to work later in the afternoon/evening so I know that taking this time now sets me up for the day.

What’s your morning routine like? Let me know in the comments!

T xx

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Why Everyone Should Have Therapy.

Life, Mental Health

Hi guys!

This week I am talking about my experience going to a therapist! I have talked to people over the years about therapy, and seen different experiences and results. The main issues are cost and finding a therapist that really gets you. This can be very difficult if you are under real stress and really need someone experienced to help you.

I found my therapist by doing a lot of research. A good method is to pick a few and go to them for a session. Some places also do taster sessions so you can get to know someone and decide they are right for you.

I liked mine as she made therapy very relaxed and interesting. She brought up studies that would apply to me – almost giving me homework and the initiative to research for myself. I had a cup of tea if I wanted, and a nice quiet relaxed room.

It can be very nerve-wracking opening up for the first time. My therapist was really good in letting me talk when I needed to talk, and asking me probing questions to get me past my stock answers to the nitty gritty. It was funny every time I showed up and she asked how I was I said ‘fine’ which I obviously wasn’t but it’s something we are programmed in to say. However after a few well placed questions we were easily down to the real issues.

I saw my therapist after each burnout, and each time we got more and more into why I burnt out and got deeper into issues and preventing it from happening again. I only maybe had three or four sessions, but these gave me the tools I needed to work on myself and make some major life choices (including quitting retail and following my dreams).

I recommend therapy to everyone. It really does help. Myself and my husband are passionate about mental health, especially in men, and when I heard that one of my friends when to therapy and he found it really interesting, I was so happy to hear. It can be hard for anyone to talk to a stranger about deeply personal issues, but it really helps release a lot and gets you out of your head.

You may think it’s going to be a cliche, or that you dont need it, but I definitely think it is for everyone, with varying degrees. You might only need a session here or there to keep yourself right, or you may need a few intensive sessions to get yourself back on track or to tackle some deeper issues so you can work through them. Either way, I hope you do get to experience it once in your life and see how it works for you. It has helped so many people as qualified therapists tackle their issues and make them see a better way of life!

Have you ever been to a therapist?

T xx

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What’s in my NEW bag!

Life

Hi team!

So this week I am showing you through the products and must haves I take in my bag everyday (and the brand of kitchen sink I keep in there also).

I bought this fabulous bag off Ebay, and I just love it. It’s small enough so I can’t over carry heavy stuff, and it has a panel where I have put all of my favourite pins, plus it has a glitter see through front! So cute!

Heres what I have inside.

  1. KEYS. I can’t be one of those people that have their keys on a hook by the door, or in a bowl – none of that. I will forget them. Plus my door is one of those that just locks when I leave, so if I forget my keys, I definitely can’t go back in to get them!
  2. Reusable bag. I am firmly on board with this reusable bag, as I have a dozen of these  canvas bags around, so why not put them to use! I am proud to say that my plastic bag usage is now only for my rubbish bags.
  3. Wallet. I bought a great snap wallet from Primark, and I haven’t looked back. It has ALL my loyalty cards, coupons, and a picture of Neil Armstrong landing on the moon. It’s what I need.
  4. Headphones. I NEED Headphones. I can’t picture life without them – as a INFJ I do need to have that time to shut out the world and decompress after a long day.
  5. Sunglasses. Always a need, for the same reasons as headphones. When I was severely depressed these two things would become my armour.
  6. Deodorant. I use a roll on from Sure and at the moment I have the Soap and Glory Original Pink Perfume.
  7. Coin Purse, or as I call it, the Tip Purse. I have a lovely seashell tiny purse that I put all my coins in – mostly stolen from my husband, to tip staff when we are out for dinner! Or if we need a last-minute bus fare. SO handy.
  8. Makeup Bag – this really should include a category of its own, but this is a super low-key bag. I have my lip stuff, hayfever pills, citalopram pills, shell shaped mirror (of course) and mints. I don’t carry around makeup to top up during the day as most the time I can go to work without makeup or I am working from home so it’s easy breezy.
  9. Hairbrush that on the back says ‘Mermaid Hair, Don’t Care’ – can you tell I’m into mermaids?
  10. Hand Cream – Hand Food from Soap and Glory – SUCH a nice smell.
  11. Pusheen Multicolour Pen – this never fails to make me smile when I take it out to write serious business stuff.
  12. Backup Charger – now that my Iphone is being used since my Ipod went for walkabouts and I play The Sims all the time, I usually need to charge it extra in the afternoon. It definitely has saved my life a few times!
  13. Business Cards – because I am a self-employed Social Media Consultant, every day I’m hustling.
  14. Hand Sanitiser – because you just need it.

While this may be a lot to some people (and not much to some) this is the perfect amount of things to get me through my day. It’s funny how personal your bag is – have you ever seen the inside of your friends bags? I remember having a nosy through my mums bag and being fascinated about what grownups carry around – makeup, etc. If you have your own Inside Your Handbag blog – please send it to me!

T xx

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Goals for Autumn

Edinburgh, Life

Hi team!

I know, it’s a dirty word, but its being used in the name of me getting out and about and achieving my goals.

While I might have not gotten along in my goals for summer as best as I’d like, I am on my way to manifesting the shit out of them. I am now on a better eating kick, with loads of veges and salads being inhaled. I am now doing yoga every day, sit-ups a few times a week, and runs never, but I have bought new trainers so that counts right?

My lounge is now being used as a lounge but isn’t decorated yet – however we can now host people properly. Win in my books.

This autumn I want to make sure that I keep embracing the moment. I am still getting used to being self employed and definitely push myself to over achieve. However I would say at this point I seem to have a better relationship with work/home life, and now that my lounge is sorted to a good level, I am definitely having more people around for dinner and drinks.

I want to keep pushing myself to cook well, instead of relying on my old tried and true recipes and really try and push myself to cook more interesting things with vegetables and try new healthier recipes. AND take my lunch to the office – this is a big hurdle. I am also thinking of going to see a dietician to make sure that I am eating all the things I’m meant to and knowing acceptable levels of sugar to eat as I definitely am a chocolate scoffer!

I also want to keep working on my fitness routine, as it has taken a lot of trial and error to get to 4 things that work for me, and that if I do, it helps a lot. At the moment I will run 4 days a week, core work 4 days a week, yoga 7 days a week, and meditation 7 days. This gives me a holistic approach to what I want to improve on and make sure I am healthy and my heart is ticking.

What are your Autumn goals? Let me know in the comments!

T xx

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What’s It Like To Be A Millennial And Own Your Own Home.

Hobbies, Life

Hi guys!

So this week I am talking about becoming a homeowner. Its been very interesting watching the debates on millennials buying their first home. We saved hard and borrowed money to get our first home, and will be in debt, however we really made it our focus to get our own home. We hated flatting and wanted something of our own. We were very lucky to get our house as you see below, however it is a real struggle to buy. Our friends have been hunting for a long time and have bid on a few houses, however someone always bids higher. It can get quite frustrating. I would like to see how the market changes and see how this changes for people of our age in the near future. Before, during, and after buying my first home I learned a lot, and also noticing how hard it is to buy a house now. This may be a series I get into, but this is what we are at at the moment.

So we looked into buying, and you do get quite excited at the market. There are so many cool/odd houses out there, so you have to make sure you know your price (deposit will usually denote this), your area or areas you are looking to live in, and if you want a newer build or a doer upper. Having lived in nice new flats and older flats, we wanted to have a house we could fully stretch our creative wings in, and do it the way we wanted.

We were a bit of a surprise, as we got for the first house we put an offer in for. We went about 15% above the price, which for the market in Edinburgh at the moment (and I’m sure many other places) is what’s happening at the moment.

We bought a two bedroom, semi detached house with a front garden and a backyard. The house also has an attic and a basement. It was the last house on the street to be the price it was, as the other houses are valued as much higher than that – that is the trick of getting the worst house on the best street.

We love the area we are in, and its close to where we first lived when we were in Edinburgh, plus its great for work for both of us. It has supermarkets nearby and a few great cafes and bakeries around for my sweet tooth.

Some of the decorating decisions in the house still tend to baffle us. There were about 5 layers of wallpaper in the lounge, each from a different decade – you can definitely tell by the print!

There is also a very handmade garden shed in the backyard filled with tools left by the previous owners. I spent a sunny afternoon ridding it of all the spiders and getting rid of the very old ant killers that probably would have killed a bear, they were so old.

It has a great rose garden in the front that I’ve not only managed to keep alive, but flourish. It’s been great having a garden as I find it’s very relaxing to do and you feel that you’ve done a proper job once you have finished.

We so have done our room, some of the spare bedroom, the kitchen, and are now starting on the lounge. We haven’t had a couch to sit on in two years (unless we want to go and sit on the spare futon bed upstairs, and also haven’t had a TV licence as well for that time, as life gets busy trying to sort the house and work. I am looking forward to the next step of the lounge, where we have now stripped the wallpaper and can start decorating.

In the kitchen we bought a display kitchen unit in B&Q, and fitted it with the help of my husbands parents. We have a butchers block, replaced the very old washing machine, and got a second hand oven from our friends. The next step is to install big glass sliding doors, to open into the garden, cover the floor with something more permanent, and replace the backdoor, which is just an inside door (another fun decision).

In our room, we painted it a very pale mint green, got a King Size bed, and moved in. I suspect it will be the last room in the house to get done.

The spare room we painted sunshine yellow, and chucked in the furniture to make it a decent spare room for when friends come to stay. However I definitely want to make it into a luxurious spare room for guests and hungover stayers. Like a nice hotel!

Our bathroom we have just finished, and its a doozy. We have white ceramic tiles with black grouting, and a line of green tiles in the middle. On one wall we have dark brown tiles that look like wood, and a bathroom suite that we also got ex display from B&Q (SUCH a bargain). We also know that we will redo the floor when we do the rest of the floors but for now, we got a grass print lino down and it actually surprisingly fits in well.

Owning a house is hard. When we first bought the house, I was unhappy in my job, and trying to make a change. Now, I have found a great job, but it’s hard to juggle that, doing housework, and then DIY on top of that. I often find I don’t have a  lot of spare time now, but this summer it has been great to invite people over for BBQ’s and host, and people love coming to see the house and it’s progress.

I definitely feel like in one years time we will be even closer to being finished, and have started to add on features to the house to improve. We just got approved for our mortgage again, so that’s great to hear that we are doing a great job on the house.

I will probably post up photos at some stage, but because it is my home I know you’ll respect my space. However follow me on the links below and I may just pop up things time to time as a behind the scenes!

T xx

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My Maori Heritage.

Life, New Zealand

Hi team!

This week I want to talk a little about my Maori heritage. This is by no means exhaustive, and I may come back to the subject as I am learning all the time about where I have come in and my history. But for now, here is some info about my heritage.

So at home, I was equipped with resources to learn about my Maori heritage. I am part of the Maniapoto family in New Zealand, and am 1/4 Maori. The Maori Language and culture is something I would love to learn more about, and now, armed with more knowledge, I am hoping to reconnect with my culture in a more serious way as the Maori culture is very interesting and an inherent part of my past, present, and future.

In primary school, I was taught some Maori songs, and things like colours. This is something I still know today, and is a great way of instilling the Maori culture into kids when they are young. New Zealand is great at teaching the Maori language and way of life to kids and there are also immersive schools for the Maori language and tikanga (protocol).

As I grew up, I knew that I had a marae that was my family’s, and that many occasions have been celebrated at, including my Koro (Grandfather)’s birthday. It is a great place to be, just outside of Taupo, and once you get the hang of how things happen on the Marae, it is a great place to meet your relatives and other people. My Marae has a protected church on the land, with a graveyard of ancestors beside, and also the main meeting house and a wharekai (place to cook and eat). You all get stuck in and everyone has a job to do if you are the hosts, providing for your visitors.

I have two aunties and an uncle on the Maniapoto side, and many cousins. I once looked up Maniapoto on Facebook and got so many people, and apparently I am all related to them one way or another. My Koro’s name was Maniapoto Maniapoto, but everyone called him Manny. I loved the idea of naming him twice.

As I get older, I have wanted to reconnect with my culture and learn everything I can about where I have come from and how I can be there for my iwi in the future. I want to be able to know the protocol of what goes on at a Marae and be able to step up when I can to help keep our little bit of land well looked after. I am overseas, and this makes it very hard to learn the language and be immersed in the culture. However I have some great books listed below that are going to help me! If you can recommend some good language apps for me, please do.

To connect with one’s culture can be scary. You want to learn all you can, but sometimes you don’t know where to start. Treat it like a lifelong thing. I’m not going to be fluent in Maori in a years time or know the proper way to do things, but I am going to work steadily at getting know part of who I am.

Have you ever taken this journey? Tell me what you did.

T xx

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