Being a Lady today.

Life

So today’s women want it all. We want to be the perfect mother, wife, friend, daughter. It is a constant marvel to me how some of my lady friends do it. This comes into the Facebook comparison of ‘Oh, her life is so amaaaaaazing’ etc etc.

This is a facade. Your girl is sitting in her pyjamas at 5pm, burnt out and eating Doritos.

I want it all, sure. I want to have a great job, be a great wife, friend, daughter. I want to Skype my mother more often than I do. I want to further my own start up business. I want to get involved in community activities. I want to read more, run more, and sleep more, as well as watch Orange is the new Black (I know, I STILL haven’t seen it).

But some days, it just doesn’t happen. And that’s okay.

I call it the spinning plates action. As per my last blog (Tiredtiredtired: A Woman’s story) – I am spinning many plates, and trying to keep them all going. If I concentrate on one thing, other things suffer. If I work too much at my blog, my husband isn’t hanging out with me (and that is tough y’all).

So I just go with the flow a little more each day, and say no a lot. Saying no is not selfish, it’s necessary. If you think you will be overloaded, strip off the excess items. You will feel much better about yourself and your life without the endless guilt trip of ‘Oh I need to do this’ etc.

This week I have organised my out of work workload into 3 weekday nights, so I can hang out with the husband on the weekend. This means that I work my butt off but then get time to read that book, see people, etc. And I won’t look at my email or anything. It’ll be amazing!

So think about your life, and what you want out of it. Is there any way you could make your life more simple? Is there anything people rely on your for that they realistically could do themselves? Do you need help with things?

Let me know how you are going with those spinning plates!! I’ll be the one running past with a podcast on French language (multitasking is my friend)!

T xx

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Fitness. Fitnass? Fitness.

Hobbies, Life

Hi team.

So I’m talking about Fitness. Now I’m all ’bout fitness pizza in my mouth but I’ve recently discovered this thing called Fitness. Fitnass? Fitness.

Quite frankly, I am dead inside. I eat so much crap. I don’t think about portion control. I think I’m at a food eating contest normally. The fact I am alive is remarkable.

But through my anxiety and depression I have discovered exercise actually really really helps. Getting out for a walk, or a run, really makes you feel a lot better. So I got the gear. (More about fitness gear in a future blog). I went for a run along my road and back. I nearly died. But I did it! And I remembered that I am good at solo sporting things. Not team sporting things, as I get super competitive. But competing against myself, I can do. So I run and run and run. I take up Body Coach. I do Pilates. And I feel better! Much better.

The thing now is to start eating healthy. So in my bullet journal (again, in a future blog) I am tracking fruits and veges I eat each day, water drunk, when I eat bad food etc. It really is forcing me to think better about my food choices.

Now I want you know that this is not about vanity. I don’t want rock hard arms and manly pecs, like Chandler in Friends. I want the ticker to keep going and get stronger. Thats it. I’m on my feet all day walking up and down retail floors, which is all very well and fine, but its not doing the ticker any good. This way I can get some exercise, without have to go to cringey classes and set my own pace.

What are you doing to improve yo fitness so you can eat more pizza?

T xx

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Tiredtiredtired – A Woman’s Story.

Life

Hi team!

You ever get that feeling you are spinning too many plates? The old trick of spinning plates on sticks and trying to keep them all going? Just me with that analogy?  Okay.

At the moment, life is busy. Hands up if you are in the same boat.

I went from being a Netflix ho to a business lady. And it’s a totally spin around I can tell you!

I am best when I am busy. And since I don’t plan on having kids I am resting my best life with the time I have. This means contributing to my community, setting up my own business, and trying to change careers. This means that I am on the go 24/7.

I am writing this blog instead of doing networking, replying to emails, and looking at stats on my blog pages as I am just tired and want to think about ways to relax.

So here are my sure fire ways to make sure you stay sane amongst the madness

  1. Take a bath. I have some Soap and Glory bath stuff that I got from my Secret Santa (holler at you!!)
  2. Read a gloriously thick magazine. (LOVE magazine is out now, and its a helluva great read).
  3. Watch that shitty movie on Netflix you love, even if you have seen it a million times.
  4. Do some stretches and twists, it will relax your body even more.
  5. Submit to a cat nap or going to bed early. It will help, promise.

Any other ways you take time out from your busy life?

 

T xx

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Volunteering at Barnardos!

Fashion, Hobbies, Life

Hi team!

So this week I am talking about my time volunteering for Barnardos. I lived by and shopped in the Stockbridge, Edinburgh one for ages, and then saw that they wanted a Visual Merchandiser, and wanting to be a Visual Merchandiser myself, I went in and applied to volunteer! I remember being very nervous for my first shift, as at the time, I was in the midst of depression and found it hard to leave the house sometimes. So volunteering even just for a 4 hour shift per week was a huge step for me and in the end, it really helped.

So on my first day, I got to grips with the store and how Barnardos worked. I learned about the company and its values, and got shown how to take and organise donations.

The team were made up of a manager, a full time staffer, and volunteers, and was a very close knit team. There were people from all walks of life volunteering and it was really fun going to volunteer each week!

I quickly came to love my job at Barnardos. We had a vintage section that became my passion, and I loved using props to showcase our fabulous vintage donations and watching people get excited about finding a treasure from the racks.

I did the windows for summertime and helped come up with themes for it, and refreshing all the trinket shelves.

I started to help price the vintage items, which was amazing seeing first the goodies being donated. I remember an Alexander McQueen bolero being donated, which was amazing. I managed to pick myself up some army boots that the names of the 4 previous girls that had owned them – naturally I added mine to that illustrious list.

We had a Christmas night out as a team and I really can remember it being the funnest Christmas night out I’d ever had. We all sat at a long table and got presents and really had a great time. Christmas in the shop was great as well, decorating the windows and seeing all the great Christmas cards and wrap that Barnardos bring out every year and that I still purchase every year!

When I left I got given a beautiful vintage top and a record that I had wanted for ages. I was sad to leave, but by the time I had left, I was more confident in myself and had made so many great friends. Moving back to Edinburgh, I went in and felt that I really missed it. I really would like to go back to volunteering, so once I am out of full time, I would definitely go back, and recommend it to everybody!

T xx

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Ladies I admire and look up to.

Life

Hi team!

This is a blog devoted to my lady heroes. I went onto the Forbes website and looked up the list of the top 100 most powerful women in the world to see how they stacked up and they are all in the Top 25! I’m glad the rest of the world agree. So I am not going into a full history, how they got there, this is just my appreciation for these ladies and I hope you comment your top 4 and why too!

Hilary Clinton (Number 2)

Hilary is amazing to me. She has worked hard for a long time to get where she is and even being defeated 2 times in the presidential campaign, she hasn’t given up. She has vanished from view, but lets not forget she is a grandmother and wife, and probably has a lot of stuff to do in her personal life and professional life. I hope to see her kicking back soon!!

Michelle Obama (Number 13)

This woman. She is the best First Lady I have ever seen in my lifetime. She is warm, funny, smart, and knows what she wants. She made life better for a lot of people and I don’t think I’ve seen a First Lady this proactive in everything from sports to music to talk shows. She is also smart in saying she wouldn’t run for president, which takes guts to do as I know a lot of people would love her to do it, but she is a people helper and loves doing that. Looking forward to seeing what she will do in the future with her new platform.

Oprah (Number 21)

This woman has lived her life in the public eye and still has remained elegant, cutting edge, and popular with everyone. She is a media mogul, having scooped many sought after interviews, and helped millions of people through advice on her shows or giving them a CAAAAAARRRR!!! YOU GET A CAR! YOU GET A CAR!

Ahem.

I love watching her and she does seem to be living her best life so definitely looking forward to what she does next!

Helen Clark (Number 22)

This one is very personal for me. This woman got me to vote. Well she didn’t show up at my door and take me down the polling station, but she made me think about me and my place in politics and what she wanted to do for lil ole New Zealand. She really sunk it in for me and I was so happy when she became our Prime Minister. This is a woman who a country still fondly calls Aunty Helen even when she went to work for the UN. She does amazing work, and I think she is incredible.

This list is a bit political heavy, but I feel it has more substance than one of those celebrity lists (which lets be real, I will probably do at some point). I hope you let me  know your lady idols, and comment!!

T xx

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Fashion in Film: My Best Friend’s Wedding

Fashion, Life

HI team, welcome to another in this series of Fashion. In. Fiiiiiiiiilm…

….(*ahem*)

Anyway this one is My Best Friend’s Wedding. Now let me start off with saying Julia Roberts is a international treasure. I love her in many films and this is one where she is so good in, you can’t keep your eyes away.

The film is amazing but the fashion is even better, especially when bridesmaids dresses come into play. So here goes!

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Now Julia in this film rocks the lady suit. The high trousers, a blazer, a plain tshirt, a necklace and cool round glasses. And the hair. The Hair. As far as I am concerned, that hair is her costar.  She has the coolest work style and if I ever work in an office I will be taking tips. She still looks young and sexy but you can tell she means business.

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She looks stylish and reserved. She looks like a lady of the 90’s and very Chanel like. I like this outfit a lot.

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This pivotal scene is also pivotal in the fashion. She’s obviously just thrown some clothes on without any thought into it, but manages to look like a total babe.

This is a strong look and you might have to do a few sit-ups to get this look (or not, who cares really) and could be your summer look or just your look when you are crashing a wedding? Anyway, this scene was very dramatic but I was just looking at the outfit. Too cool.

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Now we come to the crux of the film, and that dress. Oh that dress.

Now my girl Julia can rock it, but this is something else as a dress. My mum had a similar coloured one when she was a bridesmaid, so it must have been a trend!

Either way, she does make it look very good and props to her, as it really could have been worse!

Ahem.

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Special mention goes to Cameron Diaz:

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She has a really cute preppy look in this film and it really suits her!

Hope you enjoyed this edition of Fashion in Film and if you have any suggestions for the next one, let me know!

T xx

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I’m 31 and I have a 90s obsession. (Toys)

Hobbies, Life

Hi team!

So I wanted to write a blog on my love of 90’s/2000’s nostalgia toys.

I would like to preface with saying that I am a 31 year old woman who has managed stores, responsible for Health and Safety, and founded a brand, that I own the following things:

1x Furby (who is deaf, and came in a Furby backpack)

3x Jem and the Hologram dolls (Kimber, Pizzazz, and Jem)

3x Tamagotchis

2x My Little Ponies – one that came with a scent, and a Wedding pony.

1x Sindy Doll

1x Beast soft toy, who is my pride and joy

1x Hello Kitty Instax Camera

1x WWE Women’s Championship Belt

Multiple Sweet Valley High books

1x Barbie Mirror Phone Caase

So as you can see, I am a big fan of toys, and things like that from that era. I am a fan of cuteness and I love my space to be full of fun and cute things. I love making my friends laugh and roll their eyes with all the weird stuff I have, and I love that my niece and nephew are endlessly entertained by my toy collection.

A lot of people are like this. They crave the gaming consoles that they used to play with when they were young, and talk about the TV shows they used to watch when they were children. Look at the 90s trend that is refusing to die. I am currently in love with everything coming out, and wearing everything from the 90s. I love it.

I also play games for relaxation, and two that I love is Disco Zoo, and My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic. They are cute adorable games initially meant for children, but the creators have been clever and made sure they audience base includes adults too. I am addicted to both these games as they are so cute and provide a bit of a challenge.

I also tried to play the Sonic the Hedgehog game that I used to be terrible at when i was a kid, and boy that brought back some memories! I am still just as terrible at it but I enjoyed the retroness of it.

So team, what do you collect? Make me jealous!!

T xx

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Meditation for Mental Health

Life

Hi guys!

So this week I’m talking about meditation. It is a form of self regulation that means you clear the mind of thoughts and reach a state of consciousness that means you are at peace! For sufferers of anxiety and depression, it really can help. Once you clear your mind, you can get a focus on whats important in life.

It is very difficult to do, and I still find it difficult. I choose to do it by myself, not in a group setting, as most things like exercise I prefer to do on my own. I use a free app called Headspace, and it really helps! Andy Puddicombe talks you through ten free sessions and then you have the option to buy more. I get by with the free ten, and it only takes ten minutes. Some day I’m so anxious my minds all over the place. Some days I’m super in the zone.

The important thing is that it must be an everyday thing, and is as important as your daily exercise. It is  a legitimate form of therapy and exercise for the mind. I really recommend it, there are other apps out there too if this one doesn’t suit, and of course there are classes out there too! Give it a shot for a week, and tell me if you continue, and what you think!

T xx

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Getting Your Mind Right

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Hi team.

So I did promise a mental health blog and here.it.is (said in announcer voice).

In order for you to feel confident in any fashion you choose, you need to be confident in yourself to begin with. For years and years I used outlandish fashion to cover the fact that I was depressed and had major social anxiety. Clothing gave me that outlet to express what I  wanted to be all the way through. Now having been treated and come out the other side (although taking it day by day) I can now wear whatever I want and it not be an expression of something else.

I also used shopping as an outlet to get a high and to feel like I have transformed myself. The sad truth is that this only lasts for a hot minute and you are back to before. Therefore I have a lot of clothing now and a lot of it was from that time. The only way to know your style is once you have a clear head and don’t impulse buy. Here are some tips to get your mojo back (fashion mojo y’all)

  1. Talk to someone – anonymous. Talking to friends is good but with a stranger you can open up in a way that you never thought. They will be able to tell you what your triggers are and offer support and solutions. I went to see someone in Birmingham and got the tools to get cognitive therapy which I still use today (as I was very anti pill at the time)
  2. Pamper yourself. In other words… (Treat YOSELF). I for for massages, pedicures, hair appointments, etc. Take care of your body and it will help you.
  3. Exercise. They say 20 minutes a day is sufficient but I can only run for ten minutes and feel like I’m dying. Pick a sport and do it. Join a team. I run, do pilates, and Zumba, and avoid competitive sports as I get anxiety and competitive. You need to pick whats right for you and do it as much as possible.
  4. Take up a hobby. I read tarot and do black and white photography. I also have learned British Sign Language and Maori. I am endlessly full of hobbies and not enough time, but I try to get all of them done regularly. Do something just for you and you will feel a sense of achievement.
  5. Meditate. I have just started it but it is super good to clean your mind after a rushed and busy day. It means you get a clear focus on what is important and what is not. I am a huge fan as I overthink like hell.

The last one, is declutter your wardrobe. It really declutters your mind. If you want help, I am here to help! Plus, mention this blog and I will give you mates rates.

Try one, and let me know how you get in in the comments!

T xx

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Sorting Your S*** Out

Life

So ladies.

Are you where you want to be? Now this isn’t a blog about career advice (you can find those on the blog), but how to set yourself up to take care of yourself.

So without further ado, here is a list of stuff I did to help my confidence in myself!

  1. Get your nails done.
    Now I don’t mean go all the time, or getting those crazy long nails that crazy people get and somehow live with. I mean go get them buffed, oiled, and painted. Then you can do this at home! Get some moisturiser that has no perfumes (Simple’s range is good) slather some on, put on some gloves and sit there sipping  Prosecco for an hour watching your stories.
  2. Get a Pedicure.
    I went to a place where they did the paraffin wax thing on your feet – so good! They also did my nails and made sure my feet transformed from troll feet to lady troll feet. It was magical. At home, get the same cream as above, pop on your feet and pop some cotton socks on and see the results for yourself (infomercial voice)
  3. Get your eyebrows done.
    I am so glad that I did not pluck my eyebrows into oblivion. Thank you for bringing my bushly eyebrows back into fashion. However everyone needs to get their eyebrows plucked and shaped. Why? It will make you look so good! I had a friend that got hers tattooed on. Now I’m a baby to even think of that but you can see that they are important to some people. If you have small eyebrows get on the internet and see how others made theirs into things of beauty.
  4. Transform your wardrobe as done in this blog and watch your wardrobe come to life!
  5. Drink water, eat fruit and veggies, run, dance, get out of the house. This will make you look  great and glowing.
  6. Dentist and doctor appointments every six months. Get to a dental hygienist too, they clean your teeth super good.
  7. As my girl Cher in Clueless says, read a good book now and then. Reading really makes you relax and when the stresses of the working week get to you, a chapter or two of a good book can work wonders for your mental health. Unless you are reading IT. Eeeeek
  8. Get your hair chopped every three months. Then you can pretend you are in those Pantene commercials. *flips hair*
  9. Facemask yourself at least once a week. If you live in a city, all kinds of crap gets into your face and makes you look old and tired. Get a good charcoal mask on and sip a glass of wine.
  10. Laughter is the best medicine. It really is true! Makes you glow, get pink cheeks, and makes the boys come to your yard. Or Milkshakes. Ahem.

T xx

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