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Being an INFJ

Life, Mental Health

Hi team,

So this week I am talking about being an INFJ personality type.

INFJ’s make up less than 1% of the worlds population, and well known INFJ’s are people such as Nelson Mandela, Alanis Morissette, and Oprah.

People who are INFJ’s look to help the world. They want to run for charity, but most importantly we want to help people to not become statistics.

INFJ’s firmly believe in the phrase “All you need is Love”, and use this strategy to win over people. Don’t get them wrong, they can be very strong in their opinions and are decisive and strong-willed. However they will not use this for their own gain. but want to make life fair for everyone.

INFJ’s love people, but can also withdraw to recharge. So when you are talking to an INFJ you may feel you are talking to an extrovert, however don’t be surprised when they shut off. It’s for their own health. Talking of which, burnout is a big factor for INFJ’s. They give too much of themselves to other people, and can also take criticism very hard and personally. With friends, they love quality. They prefer an hour of deep conversation to a small talk ten minute coffee.

The combination of being creative, empathetic, decisive and inspiring is something that the INJF uses to forward their beliefs. If an INFJ tells you they are going to climb Mt Everest, you can believe that they have a plan and the will to see it through, especially if it is for a cause they believe in.

However there are some weaknesses to this personality, as there are with any other one, such as being quite sensitive to conflict and criticism as mentioned before. They are private and will retreat. However if you show a genuine interest in them they will respond well. They need to have something to believe in and fight for – and through this fighting they can burn out very easily if they aren’t careful.

INFJ’s want to find their lobster. They want to find ‘The One’ who they connect with and they look to build lasting relationships with their chosen one.  They can be picky, and can see when people aren’t being their real selves, which can help in the initial stages of a relationship.

INFJ’s crave real friends. They don’t want superficial, they want the 3am talks at 10:30 in the morning. They detest small talk and really just want to talk openly and honestly with you. They can be hard to make friends with in the workplace, but if you share their passions and interests, then they will be a great friend to you. You do need to work at them a little bit, being a little private it takes them a while to open up.

 INFJ’s hate gaining power, and try to avoid people that want to gain power. You won’t see them on Instagram with their shiny highlighted face and new car.
When it comes to their career, INFJ’s do tend to avoid corporate paths, as it doesn’t fit their life journey. and this goes hand in hand with not wanting to acquire power. INFJ’s also have a hard time deciding what they want to do, being pulled in many different directions. They suit roles as life coaches, doctors, and counsellors because these job choices help people directly. They also want to be creative in their chosen career.
They also thrive setting up their own business, as they can plan their own workload and career goals. Often INFJ’s also go into writing, music, photography and art.
I love being an INFJ, and I love even more that I know what I am and why. It’s saved a lot of stress and overreaching the last few years, and also lets me know when and where to push myself.
Are you a INFJ? Let me know in the comments!
T xx
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